With Raiden’s birthday on Sunday, Margie Bryant — the boy’s great-aunt, whom he lovingly additionally calls grandma — and her household wished to discover a method to verify the boy is aware of how a lot he’s liked, particularly within the absence of his dad and mom, she advised CNN.
A “wave and roar” dinosaur-themed drive-by parade is about for November 28, organized by Bryant, who lives in Houston. An area fireplace division, a Batman entertainer, monster truck golf equipment, bike golf equipment and basic automobile golf equipment are all resulting from take part.
“It’s a milestone birthday,” Bryant stated. “We just want him (Raiden) to know that we’re going to be there for all of his birthdays and make sure he’s celebrated, and I know my niece has the cheesiest grin because she knows her boy is in good hands.”
Raiden lives in San Antonio, and his maternal grandmother, Rozie Salinas, has taken him in, Bryant stated.
“I can’t say it enough … I know what it (coronavirus) has done to us, and I know the hurt that we feel, the void that it has left in our hearts, this little boy who doesn’t have his mom and dad now,” she stated. “You hear about the deaths, but you don’t ever really hear about the people left behind, and in this instance, it’s a 4-year-old.”
Taking obligatory precautions
Raiden’s father, Adan Gonzalez Jr., 33, began a brand new job as a cement truck driver on May 12, Bryant stated. His coach examined optimistic for Covid-19, and by May 31, Adan started experiencing what he described to his household as allergy-like signs.
On June 3, he examined optimistic for Covid-19, and 6 days later, paramedics took him to the ICU, the place he spent somewhat over two weeks earlier than passing away on June 26.
Raiden’s mom, Mariah Gonzalez, 29, broke the information of his father’s passing, and although troublesome, Raiden understood that Adan had been unwell, Bryant stated.
Both Adan and Mariah, a toddler trainer at a day care heart, had been taking obligatory precautions at work by sporting face masks, Bryant stated.
After shedding her husband, Mariah handled despair and anxiousness, her aunt stated. But her bodily well being appeared nice.
Then on Monday, October 5, Mariah spent the day purchasing together with her mom, ordered dinner and lived an in any other case regular day, Bryant stated. In the night, Mariah began experiencing shortness of breath and chest pains, so Bryant suggested Salinas to name the paramedics, she stated.
“They came, did an EKG, did some other stuff, and they took her away and we never saw her again,” Bryant stated. “She passed at 8:14 on Tuesday morning.”
‘Angels within the clouds’
Raiden will “tell you, ‘Covid took my dad,'” Bryant stated. “And it’s sad to hear him say that, but he says, ‘My dad is an angel in the sky, he’s in the clouds,’ and that is how he has recorded it in his mind whenever people ask him.”
While Raiden remembers his dad’s each function so nicely and talks about emulating his voice and wanting related facial hair when he grows up, he is having a troublesome time understanding and realizing that now, his mom has joined Adan as an “angel in the clouds,” Bryant stated.
Bryant and her accomplice drove to San Antonio the day Mariah died. She was the one to inform Raiden about Mariah’s passing — some of the devastating issues she’s needed to do, she stated.
“He’s so smart. He has the most contagious laughter. It broke my heart to be the one to deliver this news to him about his mother, Mariah,” she stated.
“I told him, ‘The reason you haven’t seen Mommy in the past couple of days is because Mommy got real sick, and Mommy is an angel in the sky now, too,’ and he was just inconsolable,” Bryant stated.
“He says to me, ‘I want to be an angel in the clouds with my Mommy and Daddy.’ But I said, ‘No, we don’t even want to talk about that, but know that they are everywhere, they are watching you.'”
‘The sky is the restrict’
“When young children experience the death of a loved one, not only do they mourn the loss, they are also concerned about who will take care of them,” Robin Gurwitch, a psychologist and professor at Duke University Medical Center, advised CNN. “It is important for family to assure the child that someone will always be there to take care of them.”
Not solely is that reinforcement key but additionally an understanding that youngsters will undergo a wave of feelings and that it is necessary to offer them the area to specific and validate them, Gurwitch stated.
That’s precisely what Bryant, Salinas and different family members intend to do for Raiden, Bryant stated.
“The sky is the limit,” she stated. “He’s such a smart little boy, so I want him to reach his dreams, and we’re going to be a part of it, and I’ve told my sister she is not alone, we are all here … whether that’s school or sports, whatever he wants, we’re going to make sure that he has it and that he always remembers Mariah and Adan Jr.”